Feminism did not invent an irrational fear that all men are violent; the high number of men who are violent rapists and commit violence against women are responsible for fostering this very realistic fear. This is called a class analysis.
Sounds like you have some strong anti cis male tendencies going on.
Male violence against women, is still male violence regardless of gender identity.
Black violence against whites is violence, regardless of what bleeding heart leftist whites want to admit.
Yes it is still violence, but you don’t seem to understand class analysis, nor oppression. When the oppressed enact violence against their oppressors it is a completely different analysis than when the oppressors enact violence against the oppressed.